Dealing with a Difficult Colleague

You’ve had the perfect job. Excitement is in the air and cheerfulness is the norm, but a week into the job and you are desperate. A difficult colleague is bent on destroying your peace in the office. Believe it or not, difficult colleagues can be found in any office on this planet.

So, who is a difficult colleague? He (of course, it can be a ‘she’ too) is a person who has all/some/one of the following characteristics.

The difficult colleague gossips behind your back and about others to you. You want to scream ‘no’ but remain silent for fear of hurting the person. Cleverly, he makes you do some of his works. It comes in the guise of help and you can’t refuse (though you did want to punch his face). He may be stubborn, and worse, able to convince his point of view however wrong it may be.

The difficult colleague likes to argue for no reason and you are frustrated in a second. Further, he is a silent conflict creator, yet everybody believes him to be the saint. A person with a wicked humour always directed at you but he makes others smile. He is arrogant to the core and you detest even the sight of him.

Now, these situations can put anybody in the backseat to fend for themselves and feel miserable. Yet, corrective measures can be taken to get out of the situation. How?

• The first thing to bear in mind: Don’t quit and run away from the problem. Take it as a challenge to deal with them.


• Stop being like the other person. Don’t match the hatred by spreading rumours and complaints. You may unwittingly try to form a peer group against the difficult colleague. Swallow the urge to do so and never let the relationship harm your work.


• Try talking to the person. You may ask-how to talk to the person I resent the most? No doubt, taking this first step is difficult. In your imagination this colleague of yours might be the monster with ten tentacles and twenty heads. However, if you talk to the colleague, implausible as it may sound, you might end up having a new friend. As you talk solutions will emerge before your eyes. Who knows, he’d have had the same problems with you.


• Then, see if the problem started with you. Some simple innocuous comments could have triggered the problem. If it had indeed started with you, apologise and take remedial action.


• Besides, the colleague may have some personal problem which manifests as rude behaviour towards you. If so, listen to the problems and see if you can find some solutions.

If, however, the person is not ready to talk and is bent on harming you, inform the HR and the Manager. Let them know that you are having problems with that particular colleague. Of course, the problem should be solved at this level. For some reason if the problem is unresolved, you can ask for a horizontal transfer to another team or department.

Changing Career during Economic Slowdown

Of late, have you been pondering about changing your career? Is the economic downturn hindering you from the next course of action? Then, you are not alone. For, there are many people, like you, who want to change their career but are anxious because of the slowdown in the economy.

Yet, you don’t have to wait, watch, grumble and sleep. Economic downturn may be the window to the lucky breakthrough you’ve always wanted. Consider a career change seriously if:

• You are not able to enjoy your weekend thinking of the week ahead. There is a permanent frown in your face which is getting grimmer as days pass by. You hate the Mondays that promptly arrive every week.
• The job you have isn’t the dream job you craved for. Often, frustration can creep in when you are struck in a job you don’t love. There is no motivation to complete the daily tasks and there’s no joy to be derived from the work. In short, you are no longer cheerful and alive at the workplace.
• The pressure is more than what you can bear. Given, all jobs have their own pressures, but if your job is affecting you, mentally and physically, think of a change. Besides, there is no alternative to good health and no job is greater than ‘you’.
• The job is boring and you are fed-up of the routine work in the office. You want a more challenging job fit for your abilities. For instance, if ‘fashion design’ makes your heart beat fast, you think of design even while looking at the office curtains, and then feel sad. So, try exploring the fashion design job market. Thus, this new job would be a challenge and fun for you.

However, now, may not be the best time to think of a career change if you are looking to make more money or want to change career just because your friend did it. If you hate your present job find the reason behind the hate. In addition, see if you can find some solutions to alleviate the hate.

As you can search for jobs during your spare time, wise, it may be, to submit the resignation after receiving a job offer. This applies to new business ventures, as well. Lay the ground work before jumping into anything new.

No doubt, career change is a big decision which can affect your entire life. So, remember to take a detached test on your strengths, skills, abilities and weaknesses. If you think that you lack key skills for your dream job enrol in some part-time or online courses. Have a comprehensive master plan; this plan should have details of the avenues/opportunities, job/business searches, skill set, research, education and a properly drawn CV. With this plan in hand landing in a job is easier and quicker too.

When you look back after twenty five years-a successful fashion designer/journalist/poet, et al.-you’ be glad that you took the plunge and changed your career at the right time.